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Sex with crazies

Mentally ill people are denied their sexuality. We are either predators (schizophrenia) or we are poor dears, to scared to be touched (depression, anxiety).

This is not new. Ancient Greek treatment of mental illness included celibacy.

Sex is bad, sex is harmful, and sex is something the disabled mind must be spared from.

I fuck.

My mind and my body seem disconnected. When I am sick I can believe that my actions will not affect my body because it isn’t mine.

Sex brings me back, sex is grounding, it is of this world.
I have never trusted unworldly enlightenment, the concept that understanding is gained by removal bothers me; this world is good enough for me.
“Fear of, disgust with, and refusal of sexual connection are common themes in the worldviews of anorexic and medieval saints and linked to food refusal” - The Anthropology of Food and Body By Carole Counihan
Staving, and removal of sexuality was avoid the reality of a sexual female body, where sexuality is viewed fearfully, a power which must be controlled, that men must be protected from, these women made themselves pure by removing the feminine fat deposits and menstruation.

Sex is worldly, and good mad women will do anything to avoid it. Anorexia holds the same social position as consumption did in 19th century England.

Good mentally ill women are seen as chaste, virginal, artistic and weak. Good mentally ill women cannot manage the changes of the world, and must be protected from it.

I have never been good, I am proud, I stand with my mental illness undefeated by it, I don’t make a good victim, and I fuck because I love it. It grounds me, because my illness doesn't put me on a pedestal. It doesn’t make me less human. I demand the right to be messy, to be complex. to not

To be me, blood, sweat, cum and tears


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Oct. 30th, 2008 01:27 am (UTC)

This is one of the places where the whole idea of a line between who is and isn't emotionally capable of deciding for themselves whether or not to have sex breaks down. Who can know except we ourselves, and realistically how often can anyone know if we're ready without at least a few times of learning that we weren't?
Oct. 30th, 2008 01:58 am (UTC)
Whoa, awesome! Could i republish this on the PAA site, please?
Oct. 30th, 2008 01:59 am (UTC)
Ok. Cite as Cheshire please.
Oct. 30th, 2008 03:49 am (UTC)
Thanks! It's here.
Oct. 31st, 2008 09:07 pm (UTC)
I *heart* your avatar!
Oct. 30th, 2008 03:44 am (UTC)
fantastic post! thank you.
Oct. 30th, 2008 03:46 am (UTC)
Thanks. It is really nice to hear, also icon love.
Oct. 31st, 2008 08:01 pm (UTC)
This is a brilliant post. I have linked to it on my blog. Thank you for speaking up for the crazies, a group that I proudly belong to. I'd like to add you to my blog-roll if you don't mind. You are definitely the cat's meow!
Oct. 31st, 2008 09:23 pm (UTC)

Thankyou, and yes you are welcome. I love your blog (I turn up as cheshire)
Nov. 3rd, 2008 08:35 am (UTC)
thanks... hope you're well...

Nov. 6th, 2008 04:01 am (UTC)
Dec. 13th, 2008 09:26 am (UTC)
you are welcome
Dec. 11th, 2008 10:16 pm (UTC)
hi, I don't know you. I got here by stumbling, and I'm so glad it directed me. I hear ya, I'm "mentally ill" by other people's standards, and I love to fuck. it brings me back into my body, grounds me, all the things you said.

hurrah, bravo, and may I link to this in my lj?
Dec. 11th, 2008 10:20 pm (UTC)
Go for it.

I am not only mental ill by other peoples standards, but by my own, and I still demand my sexuality.
Dec. 11th, 2008 10:22 pm (UTC)
*applauds you* I'd love to converse with you on the subject, and I agree. I demand my sexuality, and yours, and everyone else's.
Dec. 11th, 2008 10:36 pm (UTC)
Thankyou, hang out, lets talk.
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